After a dementia diagnosis, the rules that families depend on — who takes care of who — just don't exist anymore. The hierarchy of parent and child or grandparent and grandchild dissolves under lost memory. Dementia is an illness that affects two people: The patient, and the person caring for them. Anger or frustration often ensues because of what has disappeared. This occurs throughout Emily Critchley's novel One Puzzling Afternoon, but a particular example is when Edie, a widow, mother, and grandmother in the throes of early-stage dementia, becomes irritated while in a café. Her son and granddaughter are unaware she has slipped into a period of the past when she was a sixteen-year-old girl. She is fussy and rude and accidentally spills hot tea on her granddaughter, Amy, who she then confuses with a waitress. Amy is devastated.
In the United States, about six million people are currently living with Alzheimer's disease and other forms of dementia. Most live in ...