Excerpt from Here I Am by Jonathan Safran Foer, plus links to reviews, author biography & more

Jacob turned to Julia. "Yes, the n-word is clearly bad. Bad, bad, very bad. But it was one word among many."

"You think the larger context of misogyny, homophobia, and perversion makes it better?"

"But he didn't do it."

The rabbi shifted in his chair. "If I can speak frankly for a moment." He paused, thumbing the inside of his nostril with plausible deniability. "It can't be easy for Sam—being Irving Bloch's grandson."

Julia leaned back and thought about sand castles, and the Shinto shrine gate that washed up in Oregon two years after the tsunami.

Jacob turned to the rabbi. "Excuse me?"

"For a child's role model—"

"This should be good."

The rabbi addressed Julia. "You must know what I mean."

"I know what you mean."

"We do not know what you mean."

"Perhaps if it didn't seem, to Sam, that saying anything, no matter—"

"You've read volume two of Robert Caro's biography of Lyndon Johnson?"

"I have not."

"Well, if you were the worldly kind of rabbi, and had read that classic of the genre, you'd know that pages 432 to 435 are devoted to how Irving Bloch did more than anyone else in Washington, or anywhere, to ensure the passage of the Voting Rights Act. A kid could not find a better role model."

"A kid shouldn't have to look," Julia said, facing forward.

"Now … did my father blog something regrettable? Yes. He did. It was regrettable. He regrets it. An all-you-can-eat buffet of regret. But for you to suggest that his righteousness is anything but an inspiration to his grandchildren—"

"With all due respect, Mr. Bloch—"

Jacob turned to Julia: "Let's get out of here."

"Let's actually get what Sam needs."

"Sam doesn't need anything from this place. It was a mistake to force him to have a bar mitzvah."

"What? Jacob, we didn't force him. We might have nudged him, but—"

"We nudged him to get circumcised. With the bar mitzvah, it was proper force."

"For the last two years, your grandfather has been saying that the only reason he hangs on is to make it to Sam's bar mitzvah."

"All the more reason not to have it."

"And we wanted Sam to know that he's Jewish."

"Was there any chance of him not knowing that?"

"To be Jewish."

"Jewish, yes. But religious?"

Jacob never knew how to answer the question "Are you religious?" He'd never not belonged to a synagogue, never not made some gesture toward kashruth, never not assumed—not even in his moments of greatest frustration with Israel, or his father, or American Jewry, or God's absence—that he would raise his children with some degree of Jewish literacy and practice. But double negatives never sustained a religion. Or as Sam's brother Max would put it in his bar mitzvah speech three years later, "You only get to keep what you refuse to let go of." And as much as Jacob wanted the continuity (of history, culture, thought, and values), as much as he wanted to believe that there was a deeper meaning available not only to him but to his children and their children—light shone between his fingers.

When they had started dating, Jacob and Julia often spoke about a "religion for two." It would have felt embarrassing if it hadn't felt ennobling. Their Shabbat: every Friday night, Jacob would read a letter he had written for Julia over the course of the week, and she would recite a poem from memory; and without overhead lighting, the phone unplugged, the watches stowed under the cushion of the red corduroy armchair, they would slowly eat the dinner they'd slowly prepared together; and they would draw a bath and make love while the waterline rose. Wednesday sunrise strolls: the route became unwittingly ritualized, traced and retraced week after week, until the sidewalk bore an impression of their path—imperceptible, but there. Every Rosh Hashanah, in lieu of going to services, they performed the ritual of tashlich: casting breadcrumbs, meant to symbolize the past year's regrets, into the Potomac. Some sank, some were carried to other shores by the current, some regrets were taken by gulls to feed their still-blind young. Every morning, before rising from the bed, Jacob kissed Julia between the legs—not sexually (the ritual demanded that the kiss never lead to anything), but religiously. They started to collect, when traveling, things whose insides had an aspect of being larger than their outsides: the ocean contained in a seashell, a depleted typewriter ribbon, the world in a mercury-glass mirror. Everything seemed to move toward ritual—Jacob picking Julia up from work on Thursdays, the morning coffee in shared silence, Julia replacing Jacob's bookmarks with small notes—until, like a universe that has expanded to its limit and then contracts toward its beginning, everything was undone.

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