Motherhood So White: A Memoir of Race, Gender, and Parenting in America
by Nefertiti Austin
A whole new perspective (8/14/2019)
Two weeks ago I adopted a little boy from the foster care system after a 3 1/2 year rollercoaster ride. On one hand the book was very relatable, family visits, siblings, judgement as a single woman adopting a son. How and when do you teach a boy to pee standing up?!! On the other hand I had no idea what extra hurdles I would have had to jump through if I weren't white. The point of the book in a nutshell! I have so much respect for the author, not only for taking these beautiful children, into her home but for opening a dialogue on the experience of adopting as a single black woman. My heart breaks for all of the hard "lessons" she has to teach her children about being black in America. Something my little blue eyed blond haired boy will never deal with.
Not all babies in the foster care system are "crack babies" my son is not "lucky" or blessed to be in my home. He is my son as much as the child I gave birth to. I am not a saint or a superhero, nor am I getting rich or in it for the money. It is not an easy ride but parenthood never is. That's what we are at the end of the day "PARENT" no matter how we got there. We need to lift one another up without judgement. We're doing the best that we can, it takes a village.
If the Creek Don't Rise
by Leah Weiss
Sometimes you make your own happy ending (10/9/2017)
Tucked in to the Appalachian Mountains, the people of Baines Creek live a hard luck, hard scrabble life. Tied together by tradition, misfortune, and a distrust of outsiders they make their way by whatever means necessary.
A product of that environment, without formal education, a family support system and self-esteem, Sadie Blue does what many girls in her situation are prone to. Sadie falls for the first smooth talking man that looks her way and jumps from a bad situation to a horrible one.
An outsider, with a story of her own to tell, befriends Sadie and gives her the strength to do what needs to be done. With help with some of the creek’s residents, some strange and some downright otherworldly Sadie begins to climb out of the situation she’s found herself in.
The area and its inhabitants and so well written and deeply explored that you can almost visualize them. I could not put this book down and its inhabitants have stayed with me in the days afterward.
The Almost Sisters
by Joshilyn Jackson
Another Hit! (5/8/2017)
In the interest of full disclosure I have to say that I love Joshilyn Jackson books! I've read every one. My only complaint is that she doesn't write faster. If you haven't read her previous novels, get to it! Both "Gods in Alabama," and "The Girl Who Stopped Swimming" grabbed me and didn't let go. I couldn't wait to finish and I didn't want it to end!
That being said, this story didn't quite have the same effect. Almost, but not quite. Maybe, there was one too many story lines that grabbed my interest? I wanted to read more about Leia and Batman, delve into the relationship between Jake and Rachel. Learn more about the town and it's inhabitants, Leia's and Rachel's parents and their childhood.
Still and all a very good read that I would definitely recommend. Hopefully this is just the beginning, I need more!
Tell Me How This Ends Well
by David Samuel Levinson
Loved it! (4/2/2017)
I don't what it says about me that I loved this book as much as I did. On the face of it, dystopian society, murder, terrorism, persecution. Having fun yet?
Haven't we all had that one person in our lives at one time who made us think "justifiable homicide?"
Julian Jacobson is the poster child for justifiable homicide. "Thou shall not kill" be damned!
Dark, disturbing, quirky, fun - this book has it all.
The Barrowfields
by Phillip Lewis
Beautifully written (3/19/2017)
From the opening passages the story of the Aster family draws you in and engages all of your senses. The characters are written with depth and nuance. The sights and sounds of Old Buckram leap off the page to the point that you feel like you are experiencing them as you read. The house is a foreboding presence that lords over the family within and seems to change their personalities and their destinies.
While the ending surprised me at first at the end, in hindsight, it seems like a foregone conclusion, a repetition of history, a debt owed by its' inhabitants.
Henry Aster Sr. is a damaged soul, who never fit in, never fulfilled his potential and never forgave himself for it. He passed that pain on to his loved ones. The man that the family saw and the man that the community saw were two sides of the coin. Do we ever really know what goes on behind closed doors? Can we ever escape our childhood and shed the identity given to us by our family histories, loved ones and the opinions of others to become who we are truly meant to be? I'm hoping there will be a sequel that explores these things and shows us the future of Henry and Threnody and who they become.
Rise: How a House Built a Family
by Cara Brookins
mind blown (10/24/2016)
All I can say is wow! I can't even get my kids to clean their rooms and Cara gets hers to build a house? I can't imagine undertaking a task like that. What were they thinking? She's either one of the strongest, fearless and determined women on the planet, or out of her damn mind! I haven't decided. It was fascinating "watching' the family work together to get this done. Their struggles with Adam highlight the failings of our mental health system. I can't imagine being in that situation, trying to protect yourself and your children while having empathy for the person with the illness. I guess next to that building a house is child's play