(3/9/2018)
A beautiful, heartfelt novel about a loving, observant Muslim-American family. A story about faith & love and the dreams parents have for their 3 children. It's akso a story about the deep pain that can happen—despite the best of intentions—when we make mistakes, have regrets, but don't acknowledge them to those we've hurt. And then it's too late.
"A Place for Us" is a gentle novel with narratives from the viewpoints (as their children grow to adulthood) of the parents Rafiq & Layla, their 2 daughters, who by external measurements, have 'achieved' the American Dream—good marriages, jobs that are vocations as well as avocations, children, and also still strong connections to their faith and family of origin.
The youngest son Amar, is the doubter/questioner/outlier in the family where both sisters, Huda and Hadia have mostly gone along, though Hadia chose her husband and both daughters have professional lives, too. Amar, the 'troubled son' is like a touchstone for the novel's themes of identity/conforming to—or struggling to find your own path, & community/acceptance when you go along—or alienation from when you don't. The novel speaks eloquently to how our family's history can shape us—for better and for worse.
Though this is a story of a family & their love for one another, it is also one of heartbreak and regret—the inability—or unwillingness—1. to step back, 2. push through a rigid set of beliefs re: how things/children 'must be/must act', and 3. allow their unique truths to unfold, as difficult & uncomfortable as that might be for the others, i.e. parents, siblings, the community. The regrets of every family members are those many of us can relate to—but the opportunity to make it right (or try to) was missed by everyone, Amar included. That's what seems to haunt all the characters as make the story more painful, at least it did for me.
As Leonard Cohen wrote in "Anthem', "there is a crack in everything. That's how the light gets in." It didn't for Amar, and it broke my heart. Perhaps it still might.