(4/12/2018)
I was not at all sure what to expect from this novel, in fact, I almost did not participate in this go around because I was not sure any of the offered titles would appeal to me as a reader. Whoa! Am I glad I tried something out of my comfort zone. And two weeks after finishing this story I am still deeply moved. And honestly, a tad raw.
I'm not sure if my reaction to this book had to do with the fact that I was spending more time than usual with my own mother while I was reading it, giving me the chance to be more contemplative of my family and Rafiq's. Maybe Fatima Farheen Mirza just put everything I felt as a child (teen, young adult, parent) into such eloquent, rich, powerful prose--I was lulled in by the beauty of her words and forced to examine them more closely, and as a result, myself.
I related strongly to her Haida, always striving to meet the expectations of her family, even if she was not true to herself. Similarly I identified with Amir, the younger, rebellious brother who struggled to be accepted for himself; he did not want to meet the expectations of others, but to be true to himself. Mirza showed me something about myself in both of these characters that I was ignoring or minimizing; and she did so beautifully.
And just when I thought I could take no more, we heard from Rafiq, the father. My heart was ripped out again as I thought of my relationship with my own son and how my actions, reactions, and decisions could have (okay did) affect him.
This was a powerful book for me personally, and that happens rarely. The time the author took to weave her story, the attention she paid to her word choice, the beauty of her writing, will surely have a profound affect on others whether the reader recognizes him/herself or not in the pages.