Book Club Discussion Questions
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Please be aware that this discussion guide will contain spoilers!
One of the most widely acclaimed authors of his generation, Andrew Sean Greer is
a writer of great daring and originality. "We think we know the ones we love." So
Pearlie Cook begins her indirect and devastating exploration of the mystery at the
heart of every relationship: How can we ever truly know another person? It is 1953
and Pearlie, a dutiful wife and mother, finds herself living in the Sunset District of
San Francisco caring for her husband and child. Then one Saturday morning a
stranger appears on her doorstep and everything is thrown into question—especially
her marriage. Lyrical and surprising,
The Story of a Marriage is a masterpiece
confirming Andrew Sean Greer as "one of the most talented writers around."
(Michael Chabon).
- How does your view of Pearlie and Holland change in the course of reading Part
I? What were your assumptions about them on a first reading and how did they
alter?
- What was your reaction to Buzz’s arrival on Pearlie’s doorstep? And to the speed
with which he becomes such a regular guest in Pearlie and Holland’s home?
- How does Buzz and Pearlie’s relationship develop and change in the course of the
novel? Discuss what brings them together and separates them.
- At one point in the novel, Pearlie says, "I am sure we each loved a different man.
Because a lover exists only in fragments . . ." (p. 64). Do Pearlie and Buzz each know
a different Holland? Does Holland surprise you by the choice he finally makes?
- "It was a medieval time for mothers," Pearlie tells us (p. 14). How much does
Pearlie’s role as a wife and a caregiver define her? Do you think she could have
responded differently to Buzz and his revelations?
- How did you think about or remember the fifties before reading this novel? Why
is it so often portrayed as a period of innocence, despite the polio epidemic, the
Korean War, the Red Scare, and segregation? Did the novel change the way you
think about this period?
7. Pearlie tells us that she was a "finker for Mr. Pinker" (p. 120). What effect does
that have on your view of her and your trust in her as a narrator?
- "This is a war story. It was not meant to be. It started as a love story, the story of
a marriage, but the war has stuck to it everywhere like shattered glass. Not an ordinary
story of men in battle but of those who did not go to war" (p. 156). Discuss the
way the war affects Pearlie, Holland, Buzz, Annabel Platt, and William Platt.
- How do the lives of Ethel Rosenberg and Eslanda Goode Robeson relate to
Pearlie?
- Why do you think Pearlie goes to the International Settlement? Does her view
of homosexuality change in the course of the novel, and if so, how?
- How did what happened in Kentucky shape both Pearlie and Holland? And
how are they affected by the social changes that happen in the course of their lives?
- How does Sonny’s life differ from that of his parents?
- "We think we know the ones we love . . . But what have we really understood?"
(p. 3). How do you think the novel answers that question?
- Do you agree with Pearlie’s decision at the end of novel not to meet Buzz? Why
does she prefer to walk out of the hotel and into the sunlight?
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