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Sito by Laurence Ralph

Sito

An American Teenager and the City that Failed Him

by Laurence Ralph

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  • Feb 2024, 320 pages
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A riveting and heart-wrenching story of violence, grief and the American justice system, exploring the systemic issues that perpetuate gang participation in one of the wealthiest cities in the country, through the story of one teenager.

In September of 2019, Luis Alberto Quiñonez—known as Sito— was shot to death as he sat in his car in the Mission District of San Francisco. He was nineteen. His killer, Julius Williams, was seventeen. It was the second time the teens had encountered one another. The first, five years before, also ended in tragedy, when Julius watched as his brother was stabbed to death by an acquaintance of Sito's. The two murders merited a few local news stories, and then the rest of the world moved on.

But for the families of the slain teenagers, it was impossible to move on. And for Laurence Ralph, the stepfather of Sito's half-brother who had dedicated much of his academic career to studying gang-affiliated youth, Sito's murder forced him to revisit a subject of scholarly inquiry in a profoundly different, deeply personal way.

Written from Ralph's perspective as both a person enmeshed in Sito's family and as an Ivy League professor and expert on the entanglement of class and violence, Sito is an intimate story with an message about the lived experience of urban danger, and about anger, fear, grief, vengeance, and ultimately grace.

Please be aware that this discussion guide will contain spoilers!
  1. Though his daughter is only three years old, Laurence Ralph worries about the difficulties she might face growing up as a result of her race, describing how Black girls are often "pushed out" of schools. Similarly, he recounts other racial disparities in the criminal justice system. Where do these disparities begin? How might we effectively address these issues nationally and in our own communities?
  2. Ralph describes how Rene runs into one of Sito's old teachers, who is now regretful about Sito's wrongful imprisonment. This comment enrages both Rene and Sito. Why? How do schools perpetuate the cycles of racism and inequality?
  3. Sito and Miguel agree to go on patrol, but Miguel pushes Sito to go further into Army territory in ...
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"Anthropologist Ralph (The Torture Letters) offers a riveting and personal account of the 2019 San Francisco murder of a distant relative, his stepson's half brother...The work gains complexity as he juxtaposes his sympathy for the murderer with his personal connection to the story and his family's desire for justice. It's a gut-punch personal narrative with broader societal implications." ―Publishers Weekly (starred review)

"Through a heart-wrenching study of a youth's murder, Ralph reveals a larger picture of social decay, despair, and violence." ―Kirkus Reviews

"Sito is Laurence Ralph's most intimate, most searching, and most liberated work yet. Following the murder of a teenage family member, Ralph explores this gutting loss through the eyes of fathers and mothers, brothers and friends. Moving seamlessly from living rooms to court rooms, he forces us to recognize that there are no easy answers when it comes to vengeance, healing, and justice. With depths beyond depths, this profound book is a memoir and a sociological analysis; it is a critique, a confession, and a prayer." ―Matthew Desmond, Pulitzer Prize-winning author of Evicted

"With great care, skill, and nuance, acclaimed anthropologist Laurence Ralph tells the tragic story of nineteen-year-old Luis Alberto Quiñonez. Drawing on his pioneering research on race, policing, and violence, Ralph takes the reader on a powerful and moving journey that unveils the failures of the criminal justice system in the United States. While there is much to despair, Ralph leaves readers with a deep sense of hope—that the failures of the past can be corrected and that we can build a more just and equitable society where young people like Sito can survive and thrive." ―Keisha N. Blain, coeditor of the #1 New York Times bestseller Four Hundred Souls: A Community History of African America, 1619–2019

"Sito is an extraordinary story of murder, grief, revenge, and the possibility of healing. With this beautifully written account, Laurence Ralph takes us to a place that is, at once, intimate and revealing. He calls into question his own ideals and scholarly conclusions as he confronts his family's loss and grief. And, in the end with the Orishas guiding his tongue, he offers a prayer that we all need to hear. Heartwrenchingly complex. Sito is a powerful and moving book." ―Eddie S. Glaude, Jr., James S. McDonnell Distinguished University Professor at Princeton University

"Laurence Ralph ruminates on gang violence and our decadent criminal legal system through the life and tragic murder of his 19-year-old loved one, Sito. The blend of intimacy and authority, of self-and-structural reflection, of despair and expectation make for a profoundly affecting and edifying book. Sito is a triumph." ―Ibram X. Kendi, National Book award-winner and New York Times bestselling author

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Memoir grappling w murder, grief, revenge, & dealing w the US justice system as a youth of color
Ethnographer/anthropologist Laurence Ralph tells the tragic story of Luis Alberto Quiñonez. Sito, as he was known, was the 19-year-old half-brother of Ralph's stepson. Ralph grapples with the backstory and aftermath of Sito's murder, recounting Sito's experiences with juvenile detention and the criminal justice system. In so doing, the author weaves in theories of justice and themes of masculinity, criminalization, violence, and mourning.

This is not just a riveting, nuanced account of murder, grief, and revenge. It reckons with "the spirit of revenge that's embedded in our legal system so that future generations don't repeat our mistakes." It imagines the possibility of restorative justice and the transformation of a legal system that is openly stacked against people of color and the impoverished. It imagines the possibility of healing.
I would recommend this to those looking for a gripping memoir combined with compelling sociological study.

Thanks to Grand Central Publishing and NetGalley for an opportunity to read an advanced reader copy and share my opinion of this book.

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Laurence Ralph

Laurence Ralph is a Professor of Anthropology at Princeton University, where he is the Director for the Center on Transnational Policing. Before that, he was a tenured professor at Harvard University for eight years. He is the author of Renegade Dreams: Living Through Injury in Gangland Chicago (2014) and The Torture Letters: Reckoning With Police Violence (2020), both published by University of Chicago Press. He is currently a Guggenheim Fellow, a fellow of the Radcliffe Institute for Advanced Study, and a member of the Institute for Advanced Study at Princeton; he has also been the recipient of fellowships from the Guggenheim National Science Foundation, the Carnegie Corporation, and the Ford Foundation. He lives in Princeton, New Jersey with his wife and daughter.

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