Why do you feel email was such an effective tool in Noah and Sally’s reconnecting?

Why do you feel email was such an effective tool in Noah and Sally’s reconnecting?

I think we have all experienced the phenomenon of it being easier to talk about important things without having to actually look at the person with whom you are speaking. There is a screen for protection and tools that can be used to block someone you no longer wish to talk to. It isn’t as emotional.

I think there is less pressure over email. You can be more thoughtful in your responses and not as reactionary. Being a little removed, it is easier to say more difficult things and to be honest.

I think it helped Sally with some of her insecurities over her ordinariness, in that she wasn’t face to face with Noah. He was just a pen pal and there were no awkward feelings that may come when being in the presence of a star.

It gave them both time to think about what they wanted to say and how to say it. I also agree that sometimes it's easier to share sensitive things when you're not face to face with the other person.

I agree with the 2 previous posts. It gave each character time to reflect before responding. It also allowed their relationship to develop in a non threatening way . Neither was under the intense scrutiny of the press and fans. We all remember just how difficult it was and social media became a lifeline for many.

The emails helped them get to know each other better without having to face each other. They also made them realize how much they missed each other and wanted to give the relationship another try. It was a good device, but I thought they went on too long.

There is a feeing of "hiding behind the screen"that makes emailing an easy way to flirt and to reveal things that may be hard to say in person. It was interesting to realize that it all occurred in a very short time period.

Sally was a much better writer than verbal communicator, so it worked well for her. Writing almost always is easier to be raw and not worry about pretenses when communicating. You can also edit your words and let things ruminate before sending the emails out, which makes for more thoughtful dialogue.

Communication by email is like being behind a curtain. You are out there but…you are not. Email gives you a chance to think through your answers or thoughts before hitting send. Communication face to face has no delete button. Maybe you are a little more honest with email versus face to face.
Sally and Noah could question each other’s lives and clarify without self consciousness.
They could admit their errors and move forward toward a better relationship.

There is nothing to add to all the thoughtful and complete comments of my fellow readers, with whom I totally agree!

It's much easier to connect via email than in person. It's easier to say what you feel when you're not face to face.

This has really played out in my life recently! I only wish it was more romantically inspired! 🤣 I serve on a board of a non profit and am trying to encourage the president to use email to update board members and have “conversations” on line so that we can move forward more quickly. This guy absolutely refuses to do this and says he prefers to meet face to face because so much can be misinterpreted when typing. But what has happened face to face in my opinion is that his voice overrides others and there is some manipulation that happens. Using email means that he has to “listen” (unless he just deletes) and can’t interrupt. I may not be moving our board forward like I want to, but at least I am expressing how I really feel-which I don’t get the chance to do in person.

I agree with comments made, email can provide a security, and a chance to be thoughtful in responses.

For Sally and Noah, the extensive emailing made it possible for them to get to know each other in a safe space. A lot of information was shared that made them realize how much they had in common, how much they respected and liked each other, and that the relationship was worth pursuing by moving on to speaking on the phone and eventually meeting in person.

Email is, to some extent, cowardly, too, so it is a double-edged sword. It can be the modern equivalent of "Berger broke up with me . . . on a Post-it note" on Sex and the City. It's easy to just discontinue communicating if it gets uncomfortable and you are not required to look the other person in the eye and tell them how you feel & why. Ghosting is cruel and unsettling, for the record.