What advice would you offer Sally to move beyond her fear of being hurt in a close relationship?

What advice would you offer Sally to move beyond her fear of being hurt in a close relationship?

Just close your eyes and jump in and believe that big things could be happening! Every good relationship has risk involved, but sometimes the gamble turns out being worth it.

No risk no reward

I think what has been important for me as I open myself up to others is to check in with myself often. How do I feel? Then I need to trust my feelings and express them honestly. A person who is worth having will be open and accepting of where I am. I also try to pay attention to the lessons I may be learning. I’ve learned more about myself when risks haven’t necessarily gone the way I wanted them to.

Just enjoy the ride. Life takes you to different places..some good and others bad. If we learn from our experiences, that’s what makes us who we are. So Sally, close your eyes and live the dream.

Nope--I NEVER give romantic advice--no one is an expert. She just has to go for it and take what comes

Advice in romantic relationships? No, not going there before, during or after a relationship. You never know what goes on in someone else's world. I've had enough heartache and joy to know it's up to me to make choices and decide my own destiny. That's what I typically say when asked. All choices have consequences, so think them through, make your decisions and embrace/learn from them.

The only thing I would tell her is to move cautiously, but with an open heart. And that is NOT easy to do, especially when you have allowed yourself to be vulnerable and gotten hurt. But if you close yourself off to possibilities, you miss opportunities. It's a conundrum, but if a relationship works out, it's so worth the risk, of course. You just have to be vigilant, trust your instincts, and don't believe everything you hear . . . from the person with whom you have become enamored. Verify everything!